05Aug
When someone you love dies, you're suddenly expected to make decisions no one ever prepares you for. And you're expected to make them fast.
One of the most important - but often overlooked - decisions is: Who will lead the ceremony?
Can I choose my own funeral celebrant?
Yes.
Even if your funeral director gives you a name, you don't have to go with whoever they suggest. You have the right to choose someone you feel comfortable with. Someone who will reflect the tone, beliefs, and personality of the person you are saying goodbye to.
What does a celebrant do?
A celebrant leads the funeral or memorial service - but not in a scripted formal way. A good celebrant will:
Sit with you and listen.
Learn about the person who has died.
Help shape the tone of the day.
Write and deliver a ceremony that feels real and personal.
What to look for in a funeral celebrant
Here are some signs you've found the right one:
They listen more than they speak
They make you feel safe, not rushed
They don't rely on a generic script
They reflect your beliefs and values
You feel like you can trust them with this moment
Why it matters
You only get one chance to say goodbye
The right celebrant will help you honour your person in a way that feels true - not just formalities, but real meaning.
That matters. More than most people realise.
How I can help
I'm Susan Paul - a funeral celebrant and end-of-life guide based in Scotland.
I offer warm, personalised ceremonies for all faiths and none. From cremations and burials to memorials and services following suicides or sudden loss - I create safe, meaningful space for whatever the family needs.
I also offer free 30 - minute planning chats - no pressure, no obligation - for anyone who just wants to talk things through.
hello@susanpaulcelebrant.co.uk
07984710623
Because every story matters.
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